Things You Need for a Successful Start to Your Weight Loss Journey (emotional obstacles and the support you need)

Embarrassed to admit, that my weight loss plan is not really… going. When I was young, losing weight was so easy. If I put my mind to it, inches came off with barely no effort at all. To this day, I still claim “losing weight is easy, once I try.” That’s the main thing… have I tried hard enough? What are my barriers? Why am I not committed to this even after I write to the whole world that I’m doing this!? Again… I resort to making lists.

THINGS YOU NEED TO (START) A WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY
(things you need to (start) getting skinner!)

1).  Bad habits stopped Losing weight, especially STARTING the process, can be near impossible if you still carry bad habits like: smoking, frequent alcohol use, buying junk food, skipping meals, not getting enough sleep, etc. etc.  *JUST STOP — if you want to START this path to a healthier life…

2).  A support system  |  It can be really hard if the people closest to you, your partner and friends, are not supportive of you. Support comes in all forms the biggest one can be emotional support. I find it difficult to be motivated if someone keeps calling me fat and pointing out my flaws. And I would much rather hear “You can do it, let’s go on walks together” as opposed to “You keep saying you are going to lose weight, get off your lazy butt and do it.” In some cases (I’d argue most) it does the opposite of helping. A solid support system is a must. It’s hard to do it alone, emotionally.

3).  Measurement tools  I’m not just talking about a scale, calorie counters, mile trackers… I’m talking more about your own personal way to measure failures, success, and most importantly progress.. (and then talking about the progress and things that are working can be just as much a help…. hence, this blog (for me). ***I should be sharing my progress and failures with you.

4).  Self Awareness   |  Kind of goes with the above ^ Do I even know how much I’m losing or intaking everyday. And that is speaking about more than just food? How do I respond to world as I go on with my day? Am I happy and fulfilled? Do I enjoy my life? Ask someone in your life if they notice differences –  not in your looks/weight – maybe ask them about your general outlook on life, attitude, work ethic, etc. Chances are if you are unmotivated, unhappy in your job, in a bad relationship, etc. etc…. it can contribute to a failed weight loss attempt. Know yourself in and out! Weight loss truly starts on the inside!

I know what I have to do to really jumpstart this weight loss process. And in making this list (and plenty others) I am becoming more aware of exactly what is stopping me – and how I need to support myself better in this effort. I invite you to share your experiences about losing weight, and how you overcame the obstacles that were keeping you from simply… STARTING.

Until next time!

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Day 50: What I’ve Learned During my Shampoo-Free Lifestyle Transition

Hi guys! Sorry it’s been a while. I’m on Day #50 with no poo, and I am still loving it! I thought I’d share with you some things I’ve discovered throughout this process.

•  Hair type really matters. Just because the recipe says 1 TBSP of baking soda, doesn’t mean you have to follow it, every scalp reacts differently. (Thick hair needs much more)

•  The “shampoo” step of the baking soda wash really needs TLC. You can’t just wash quickly. Deep massaging and rinsing really is necessary.

•  Stress and other life factors play a role! I found that sometimes I could go a week or longer with simply rinsing my hair with hot water. On weeks where I was much more stressed, I noticed that my hair got greasier faster, and during these times did “the wash” every other day or so.

•  Hairspray and other products create grease and irritation faster as well (use minimally).

•  My hair is getting waves. I haven’t gotten a perm in about 2.9 years. But this process has really brought back the waves, it’s great! Not sure if it’s because my hair has always held a curl well and that I’ve gotten many perms in my life… but this brought it back for me!

•  I’m getting less strands in the shower! It truly seems that I am shedding less hair. I’ve always hated the fact that my hair comes out by the clumps sometimes, but this seems to be fixing that.

•  If it works, don’t fix it. I have been super curious about trying new strategies; a different vinegar product maybe, or adding a natural shampoo to the mix… but I’m leaning towards keeping consistent for a while.

We’ll see how that goes!

One thing I will investigate and write about next >>> What to do / What to dab onto your scalp to soak up some of that grease. I rub my fingers in it sometimes like ick, how can I help this?

Until next time!

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Update on My Shampoo Free Lifestyle – Day 25 “Patience Pays off”

Okay so it’s almost been a month since getting completely off shampoo and conditioner. I tell ya, it gets gross. I almost gave up a few days ago. Yep, Sunday night I decided I’m showering and shampooing my head that feels icky more than it feels good. I didn’t want to feel greasy at work Monday. I told my boyfriend I’m giving up on it he looks at me surprised “Why?” Usually I get no kind of reaction, I mean I didn’t think he was listening to me when I yab about this stuff. So I realized that this was something I talked about trying for a while, and I shared my story with everyone. I realized (as I’ve been ((shamelessly admitting)) only crawling into what is supposed to be a big intense, blog worthy weight loss story) that like getting my health in check, this no shampoo thing is going to just take time. ***sigh

It just takes time. Patience. Work. I’m in it for a better view on life, I’m it it for a healthier life… I’ll do the work. Everyone tells me patience pays off. Okay, I accept. Dang though, I wish I hadn’t lost 60 pounds during soccer Freshman year… like nothing… then maybe I’d know patience.

I can do it! It will pay off.

ANYWAYS

I fell asleep without showering Sunday, and even after inching out of bed thinking YES I’m going to shampoo my hair today ahhhh… I remembered this insight about patience and commitment, and I sucked it up. I did the baking soda | vinegar thing and called it a morning.

So… since starting this 25-26 days ago… I have done this cleanse I think 6-7 times maybe 8.. But this time, I actually used the vinegar again. Long story short, I’m not a huge fan of my hair feeling soft or silky. I do not, did not condition my hair with every shampoo. So after the first 2 times of doing this, I unsurprisingly starting skipping the vinegar too. Maybe this was a mistake because Monday night was awesome!! After a day of being in a loose braid, naturally air drying… my hair felt so SOOO much longer. (And I am notorious for thinking my hair never grows). Just touching it made me think it had to be like 2 inches longer. Maybe it’s just me, maybe I’m just looking for validation, but I don’t care… things are paying off, I just need to be patient.

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Wow. Eager to see what will come of this? I’m excited. During those few weeks of uncertainty I kept thinking that if I gave up it’s because this may not be right for me. Maybe my hair was already thick and shiny and long enough that this wouldn’t do as much for me as it would for a thin, short haired person or someone with unmanageable or sensitive hair. Nahhhh! This is going to do something good for me, and I’m feeling really good about it now!

Mission 25 & Killer Thighs: Step 2: The Lists (What I’d Wear if I Were Thinner)

As I continue on my rigorous mission of …turning 25 with killer thighs, I’ve been completing steps that are true motivators to me in this journey. Right now, I’m making lists. And here’s one that I know a lot of people must have… thin or thick, short or tall, it’s the “If I were thinner… taller… curvier I’d wear…” kind of lists.

Now I know some of these styles do work for curvier women, but they simply don’t work on my current shape. But I’m changing that. This is another useful step to healing myself from a lifestyle of poor eating and inactiveness. This is my vision board for thinspiration, the list of things I’d wear if I were thinner…

• Rompers •  Yoga pants as pants • More white! • Wide Leg Pants • Daisy Dukes • Belted waist • Tanks, Halters, and Tube Top Maxis WITHOUT cover ups like cardis and blazers =) • (Men’s) Shirts as Dresses • Hi-Low Skirts …anything I want!

What will you wear when you reach your ideal shape?

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Mission “25 and Killer Thighs” Step 1: THE Photo (The Start of my Weight-Loss Journey)

I just realized I will be turning the big 25 in a little over 2 months. I certainly do not want to look or feel like I do now, at age 25. I’m taking back control of my weight and my fitness. This is CRUNCH TIME… literally. I’d like to wear a dress, and I’d like to feel good on my birthday. So that’s that. I need to put in the work. First… I’m reflecting on it, and that’s this post. After I hit publish… Mission 25 & Killer Thighs is underway!

Here’s an exercise to try.
I did it last night, and I hope it sticks…

Get the photo of you from one of the last times you remember being comfortable with your weight. Get a photo that inspires you, that shows your body in a healthier state.  Is it recent? Even better.  — Write something on it. Tell yourself something. Be short and sweet. Make a point. Try to inspire yourself.

I chose a photo from 2009, one of my first real art shows, a great night, lots of excitement and romance. One of the last times in my mind I felt truly confident. It was during a time period when I never thought too much about how I looked in what I was wearing. (that seems so foreign…) I just got dressed in cute clothes. And I like this picture of me working the counter. My boyfriend took the shot… I want to be her again.

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Now chose another photo (mine was from the same night… great photography from Ella Schreck). Have this photo show one part of your body that you want back so bad. For me it is the look of my face. I can’t believe it when I see older photos of me, and my face looks so different. Below is a photo of me from a wedding about a month ago. I had goals to be thinner by then and I did not reach them 😦 Needless to say, I was the farthest from comfortable that night. I was looking forward to getting nice photos of my boyfriend and I this night, and that middle photo made me feel so sad. I did not post this on Facebook like I wanted to. I am ashamed and disgusted by it… but I somehow feel deep inside, that exposing this to you will force me to do something about it. If I want this face back, I got to put in the work.

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And here’s something I saw when I went on Pinterest just now…

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I get why for some these types of “thinspo” images help to motivate. I love this quote! But I don’t really look at stuff like this. I think it’s important to know what you want in YOUR body. This exercise will help. I know who I was and what Im capable of looking like and feeling. I want to take control of my health by staying focused on me.

Wish me luck… I’m getting my face back!

2 really easy things I’m going to do starting tomorrow:
•Make a conscious effort to drink way more water
•Take at least two walks (twice around the building/block) a day

2 things I’m not going to do:
•Make unrealistic, unreachable goals or benchmarks for myself
•Compare my fitness techniques and weight-loss journey to others’